The frustrating thing about change, especially organisational change, is that it doesn’t happen the way we want. Or at the speed we want. You spend hours providing insightful, kind, generous engagement to another’s work. To work that matters. To work you care about. Only to see it ignored, not included. You do this more than once. More than twice. You try different approaches, different stories, different people, form different groups. But still the same result.
The line between perseverance and insanity is murky.
We all know stories of people who persevered against all odds for years, even decades for their cause. We also know the definition of insanity as ‘doing the same thing, but expecting a different result.’
It brings us back to the murky line. It is hard, if not impossible, to see it on our own. We need others to help us see. And others who are not in same fog we are, but those who understand the fog. And while the others may help you see the ‘line’, you still will need to choose.
Making the choice to stay sane by stepping away is never easy. It requires us to let go of a story about ourselves and about others. It often is a changing of an identity story we tell ourselves. It can feel similar to coming off an addiction.
The line will always remain murky at best, more often it’s opaque. We need others who know us to help us see it. Find the others. You’ll be glad you did.