As a child, I hating going into our basement. It was dark and I feared the bogey man was lurking in the shadows. No matter what Mom and Dad said, I was terrified. Even though, deep down I knew the bogey man didn’t exist and certainly wasn’t in our basement, I was still terrified.
Fear and anxiety can be both rationale and irrational. And yet, it always feels rationale to person experiencing it. So when we belittle the other for what we think is irrational, we help no one.
Change is often the same. Those impacted by the change have both rationale and irrational fear and anxiety about it. Rarely does giving a rationale response help. And belittling never does. And yet, these are the two most common responses to those experiencing the fear.
Perhaps it’s time to try another way. To sit with the other in the anxiety and fear. Or to travel with them ‘down the metaphorical stairs’. Or perhaps, as my Mom often did, we need to ‘stand at the top of the stairs’ cheering the other on.
Some form of empathy is always the best choice if we care about the other.
The choice is up to us.