We seek formulas because they are easy. Formulas tend to be prescriptive assuming there is one right answer and one right way of doing things. We feel they are less risky or a guaranteed win. Formulas feel safe. 

But are they ?

We have come to believe there is a hierarchy of decisions, of choice, of ‘rightness’. And yet the hierarchy is not known or shared as is different for every person and decision. So we can’t please everyone, but we still try.  Sometimes we are or feel judged by others for the choices we make; other times we judge ourselves but blame it on others.  

Formulas can be helpful, but the decision is still ours. Own it. Learn from it. And dive in.