Change often causes anxiety, which can produce bullies and depressives. Change requires a deep understanding of humans.
From the Blog on shame
Often change makers are shame handlers. Not intentionally, but it seems to come with the job. How we respond has significant impact.
I’m not good at this. We fear failure, but more than that we fear shame. It doesn’t matter if you are 8, 38, or 98. We don’t like shame.
We can choose where we focus. Many organisations want us to focus on our lack, so they can sell us their ‘cure’ (aka product)
We often rate projects using the red, yellow, and green, shaming managers who’s projects are red or yellow. So they turn red projects into watermelons.
Part of being human is being biased, but this is not an excuse for us to have the same biases all our lives. However, shame is not needed, it is unhelpful.
I am ashamed of my Canada. We have failed so many. We need a day (or week) of repentance and a asking for forgiveness.
When we seek to bring about change, the less jargon, the better. Change triggers enough shame on its own, we don’t need to pile on more with jargon.
The digital divide is so much more than just devices and connectivity – they are the easy bit. It’s about literacy and safety and shame.